We first visited Grandfather's grave 20 years ago in a hired car. The cemetery was located "off the map" on a dirt road and we had to stop several times and ask directions. Today the cemetery is in a busy suburb with an expressway cutting it in half. Our bus driver had to stop and ask directions once, and on arriving, the new parking lot was disorienting and we had to look up the plot number and location at the cemetery office. Located on the other side of the new expressway, and up the hill, Grandfather's grave needed some small trees removed and the inscription needed fresh paint. That done, we made offerings of flowers and fruit, bowed three times, Sun-Ling's nephews burned paper money, and we headed back down the hill, over the expressway, back to the bus and on to a late lunch.
After lunch we visited an uncle and aunt in Suzhou then returned to Shanghai during the PM rush hour - a long but rewarding day.
On the expressway to Suzhou.
Grandmother's nephew's tomb.
Grandfather's grave all cleaned up.
Sun-Ling's parents bowing.
Ian and Ethan burn paper money to be used by their great-grandfather in the afterlife.
Back in Shanghai.
Interesting. Grandmother's nephew. Is that third cousin? Or second cousin once removed? Twice removed?
ReplyDeleteFirst cousin one removed I'm told. We would call him Uncle (JoJo in Shanghainese).
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